What impresses a guy most in bed? Surprisingly (or maybe not so, guys do have a reputation for being lazy), most confessed that they're not all that interested in acting or circus acts. In fact, many men told us that they're simple creatures who basically just want their partner to show up. But if you're looking to give him something extra-special, they'd love a little bit of this.
1. Do It With the Lights On
You may be worried about what your partner thinks of your post-breast-feeding boobs, your C-section scar, or that at some point, he'll stop being attracted to you because you look a little — OK, a lot—different than you did when you were younger. But men rarely notice your self-perceived flaws — they only become aware of them if you're preoccupied with them or go out of your way to cover up. "It's true, men are very visual," "But it's really about wanting to be able to actually see you move, preferably with no clothes on. We're validated by how happy we can make you in bed, and that's what we're focused on—not on how much you may have changed." So allow him to see you. All of you.
2. Touch Yourself
Some women and men might find this a tad embarrassing, but hear us out. "Watching a confident woman fully connect to her sexuality is a huge turn-on for your partner, It's like giving your partner a private peep show, and being able to see the pleasure on your face and get a better understanding of exactly how you like to be touched is both a turn-on and a valuable lesson.
Call us Captain Obvious, but… "I cannot stress this enough:We love getting blow jobs "And we love when you take it upon yourself — no asking or begging required—to give us one." So go ahead and surprise him, and not just because it's his birthday or you lost a bet.
4. Be Vocal
We're not suggesting frighteningly fake porn star-moans,men want to know they are turning you on and that you are enjoying it . "That doesn't necessarily mean you need to talk dirty," "Commands — like 'f--- me harder' — can make us freeze up. Telling us when you like something—'I love it when you f--- me hard'— is far better." You might wonder the point of "oohs" and "ahhs" after all these years — after all, he likely knows what works by now. But if you let yourself go and gasp a little like old times, you may be surprised by how he respond to that validation — and what his renewed excitement will do to you.
5. Use special toys.
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6. Get Frisky Anywhere But In Bed
"Men fantasize about having sex in different places," . While routine sex has its place, he sometimes wants to do something different and feel young and risky again.Or get some oil and massage in front of your fireplace. Or simply straddle him on the couch while the kids are at a sleepover. Just use your imagination to what you think your partner will find exciting, but one thing I know, men can not get enough of a women in sexy lingerie no matter what it is, it gets the libido working. Click here
7. Take your time
We've all been there: You're totally exhausted and trying to get it over with or you're simply caught up in what's happening and your body naturally goes fast. But decelerating can be powerful. "Men like being able to feel everything and to have time to explore," "For example, if you are performing oral sex, take him all the way in and out very slowly so he's just barely touching your mouth." Once you're done teasing him you can go full throttle, but in the beginning, a light technique goes a long way.
8. Show Off Your Acting Chops
"Many married men worry they're going to get bored of having sex with just one woman," . That's why role-playing is so effective. In addition to having you — his fabulous wife —your husband can also get feisty with the "barista" or "maid." "Entering into fantasy-mode automatically increases levels of dopamine, the arousal hormone, and elevates your sense of attachment,". So even after you're through getting down with the "cop" or "pirate," you'll feel closer to each other for having done something novel together for great sexy dress ups. Click here
9. Never Underestimate the Power of Foreplay
Sure, guys have a reputation for wanting to get it on within seconds, but don't get forget that the build up can be just as hot. Whether it's a sexy test you tend to get him excited or slowly disrobing for an impromptu a striptease, try getting him revved up before you even start. Why rush to the main event when you can build up to something even hotter?
10. Let Him Dominate You
Couples so often get into a sex routine — same time of night, same place, same position. And while your husband may not make an active move to change things, men want to have the power to switch up patterns and take total control,use one of his silk ties, have him bind your hands together, and let him take it from there. We suspect you won't regret it.
11. Do Something Taboo
Most of the men we spoke with confided that they're interested in trying — or having more — anal sex. "The almost forbidden nature of this act and the vulnerability it requires from you make it something men really want to experience, but don't want to suggest out of fear of offending you," If you'd be up for experimenting with anal and suspect your husband would enjoy it, initiate a conversation.
12. Touch the Unexpected Places
Did you know that men have sever places over their body that get them horny besides the penis? There are semi-obvious places like a guy's torso or inner-thoughts, but don't forget lesser-thought of sexy sports, like his temples or behind his knees.
13. Indulge His Fantasy
Sometimes, it just pays to ask. Just like no two women are the same, no two men are the same — and neither are their fantasies. Ask your partner what his ultimate sexy wish is, and then indulge exactly that. Whether he's been dying to see you in a certain type of lingerie or have you dominate him, you'll only know if you ask. Assuming you're in a healthy, honest relationship, he'll be happy to open up.
14. Dress Up Click here
Never ever underestimate the power of a see-through teddy to get your guy standing tall. "Anything that makes a woman feel good in her body and sexually confident is very sexy," And nothing is sexier to your guy than confidence. I can personally attest to this fact; my man cannot resist this sexy little (and I emphasize little) red nightie that a nonchalantly stroll around in on occasion. But it's not even just wearing the lingerie. It's the tease, the sexy text you send him letting him know you bought some sexy lingerie, but he has to wait until the evening. Take your time and take charge, because the ball is in your court and your man wants it all.Or he may get turned on if you dress up as a nurse, or a maid or whatever takes their fancy. Often role playing can be very sexy and fun.
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The prostate might be new territory for you, or it might be new territory for you and your guy, or maybe he's been too shy to ask for a finger up his butt, but don't leave the prostate unattended. It's time to show your guy how much pleasure he is missing in his derriere. "A lot of the penis is internal; it almost looks like a boomerang," explains Fleming. With back-door play, "you're massaging these internal nerve endings and that can feel really good." Start by adding a finger when you're both highly aroused. Soon enough, he'll be wondering why he wasn't already experimenting with prostate play. "It's definitely worth testing those waters," Click here
16. Expand Your Menu
It's easy for any couple to get in a sexual rut. "What happens in a relationship is everything you like and your partner like stays on the menu, but anything either of you doesn't like, isn't tried," "So make a list of yes/no/not for now and over time as you develop the intimacy, the safety, and the connection, then you can be like 'OK, why don't we go back and visit role play or go back and revisit anal play.'" It's that simple! Think of all the fun you'll have writing the list out together. (And how much easier your sex life will be when the two of you aren't scrambling to think of new sex positions in the heat of the moment.)
17. Incorporate a Toy
Think sex toys are just for when you want to get off solo? Think again — there are plenty of sex toys out there that are meant for both of you. You could also give him a sexy show and let him watch you use your vibrator. Click here
18. Talk Dirty
This is your chance to get creative. There are so many sexy things you can say in bed that will make the experience hotter for both of you. Because let's be real: There's nothing more attractive than someone who's open about what she likes.
