I have come across 8 ways that I have found are great for making your sex life much hotter, and will go a long way into turning things around in the bedroom.

 

!."Sometimes when things have been too hectic and we haven't been making  time for sex, I'll offer a massage with candles and oils. It relaxes both of us, and the intimate and gentle touching leads to kissing and then sex. It sets the mood for a slowed down, sensual night when we might otherwise be 'too tired.

2."Sometimes I need a little extra something'  to get in the mood. So I do all the things that feel like they're going to lead to sex — dim the lights, light candles, play romantic music, put on lingerie. If I'm feeling adventurous, I may even a mini vibrator or say I want to try a different position for some added fun.

3."Rather than jumping right into sex, sometimes I'll force the two of us to slow things down. We'll spend a lot of time making out like teenagers, then go on to foreplay before finally moving to sex. It builds up a lot of anticipation and obviously draw things out so it feels very sexy.

4.Sometimes I feel too shy to tell him about my sex fantasies, I'd never been inside a sex shop, so walking up to the massive gadget display was making me blush. But he made a joke about a vibrator shaped like a rubber ducky and it totally broke the ice. So we browsed the shelves and left with a couples vibrator, so we could both feel some stimulation during sex. Let's just say there was an instant O, and we'll be going back to see what else we might like. Getting a new sex toy makes it exciting, and gives you something to fantasise about until you get to use it.

5.Get a game of Sexopoly, which is just like Monopoly in structure, so it's easy to play because the concept is familiar. We drew fun 'Risky' and 'Frisky' cards that instruct you to do things like give a lap dance or kiss for a certain amount of time — I honestly haven't laughed that hard in a long while, but hey, it got the fires burning." and you actually dont feel shy as the card tells you what to do. Such fun and very sexy, and gets you doing things you normally wouldn't think of.

6.For something a bit different, write your partner a sexy note and put it somewhere where he will find it, sometimes it takes him a while to get it, but when he does I eventually get a text and he's pretty much raring to go. It doesn't hurt that I'm already turned on because I'm thinking all day about him finding the note, so by the time we both get home from work we're pretty much ready to tear each other's clothes off.

7.During the day just out of the blue, send your partner a dirty sexy message, you will find he will love it and respond very quickly. Try and do this every few months,  talk about what you will do in bed later. It's especially exciting when  out with friends (after texting all day, before getting home) and he whispers in my ear what else he plans to do…"

8.Spontaneity is always hot as it is something you do not do much like when your partner comes home from work be in the kitchen preparing dinner with no clothes on, or with a sexy maids outfit on. When you go out to a restaurant whisper to your partner, I have no underwear on. On the way home go parking find somewhere dark that you can feel like teenagers again, it is so much fun and very sexy. Send your partner a nude picture of yourself with a comment down the bottom saying guess what is for dinner.

The bottom line is, we get carried away with our busy lifestyles and forget about the fun in life, and what keeps us young. I can honestly say if you make an effort, you will definitely get the rewards.